Get Addicted to Loving your Life
Updated: Oct 5, 2019
“ You don’t get over an addiction by stop using. You recover by creating a new life where it is easier not to use. If you don’t create a new life, then all the factors that brought you to your addiction will catch up with you again”
Booom! This is the quote that really got to me and I decided it was finally time to embark on my journey to sobriety. It’s been 61 days and to be absolutely honest, these have been one of the most empowering journeys I have ever been so far, I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world.
Overcoming an addiction, whichever form you choose, is not an easy thing to do. We are creatures accustomed to stay where we feel most comfortable in, our comfort zone, our nest, where everything is familiar and feels natural.
Drinking, overeating, abusing drugs; these are all part of our comfort zone, the tools that we use and abuse to make ourselves think “that are going to make us feel better”. In a constant quest to escape our reality and not face what the real issue in our lives is.
We use excuses such as:
“I just drink on the weekends”; “I only eat when I’m sad”; “Drugs are recreational, all my friends do it and we have fun”; “I deserve a treat, I had a long day”, are any of these familiar to you?
My favorite excuse to drink was when I sat down at home and worked on my business… Yep, believe it or not, I made myself believe that I needed it to be more creative, to express my feelings better and blah blah blah. I was what society called “A FUNCTIONAL ALCOHOLIC”. I got up early, even if I had finished my usual 2 bottles of red wine per night; I went to the gym; I was always on time for work and functioning to my full capability; I made time to work on my business every day, no matter what time of the day it was… because also, I made myself believe that I was a night person and that was the best time for me to work, enhance, best time for me to drink as well because no one was watching so no one could judge me. I stopped getting hangovers and my tolerance had grown so high that one bottle turned into two, and I made sure I had enough supplies in the house; I panicked if I was running out of fuel!
I kept telling myself that as long as it didn’t affect my work, then it was OK, I was almost proud of how much I could drink and how much I could function.
The signs were there, I was too caught up on my own ego to wanting to notice them.
Every time I had a call schedule with a client or a guest for my podcast, I would make some sort of excuse, most of the time it would be some lie that I was called into work last minute; or that I was suddenly sick, which rarely happens.
I kept doubting myself and what I was doing on my business and for my business, and as a Mindset Coach, that was a hard reality to deal with. How the hell would I be able to help others overcome their fears and challenges when I couldn’t even do that for myself. I kept saying it was part of the process, of what I needed to learn in order to be of more value for my clients; and in part was true, but not from where I was standing, drinking my 2 bottles of wine every night.
That was my lesson, I had to overcome my own fears and challenges first; so I had a real talk with myself about what I truly wanted about life; what was more important to me, keep drinking and perform at what I thought it was my best or finally get rid of the one thing that was stopping me from being the woman I wanted to be!
And then that quote just magically appeared in my life, at the right moment, when I was asking the Universe for a sign... when I was asking myself for a sign.
Einstein once said:
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”
Wouldn’t you agree with that?
If we keep doing the same thing over and over again but expect desperately to have different results, that will never happen, we’re going to keep going on the same old circle over and over again.
Most people go back to their addictions because of loneliness, which triggers anxiety, frustration, fear; but their addiction triggers all these feelings too, so they get caught up in a rock and a hard place. Should I keep going? Should I go back where I know is known and comfortable?
I say keep going…
The journey to sobriety is not easy, drinking is the easiest part to do, is getting out of your comfort zone what is hard… But Gosh, is so worth it!
You’ll discover a whole new world, a world filled with clarity, dreams and desires that you CAN ACHIEVE; and most importantly, you’ll discover who you truly are and when that moment happens, the world is your oyster Queen!
Once you know you achieve one of the biggest challenges in your life, then everything else will seem like a fun walk in the park.
You will achieve anything and everything you set your mind and soul to!
You will have your inner strength and power back!
So my best advice is to find something that really spark your world. Something that makes your heart smile. Something that you become so addictive because you love it so much and brings all the joy and happiness in your world.
Whatever that is, try it, if you don’t know how to start or where to start, reach out for help. Start making new friends, connect with people that are living the life you want to live, learn from them, get inspired and start believing that you TOO can do it!
CREATE A LIFE THAT YOU LOVE LIVING!
Love, Light, BE
Maria C. Krause.
|Mindset and Business Coach|