WHY WE ALWAYS FEEL THE NEED TO FIX SOMEONE ELSE AND FORGET ABOUT OURSELVES?
Updated: Jul 23, 2019
AS WOMEN, WHY WE ALWAYS FEEL THE NEED TO HELP SOMEONE ELSE AND ALONG THE WAY, WE FORGET TO HELP OURSELVES!?
I've always been a person that attracted a broken soul, specially when it came to my relationship with men. I was always trying to be the best I could be for that person, I wanted to showed them how special I was; how sweet and caring I was...And for what, over and over, I got rejected, I got hurt, I was made feel that I was nothing, that I wasn't good enough.
But being the caring loving woman that I am...and stubborn, I kept pushing, I kept loosing myself just to please that person; and you know what? I kept getting the same fucking results. Nothing I did, said, showed, was ever good enough to make that person realize how amazing I was, I am.
Not long ago, I had to have a proper sit down with myself. For someone watching from the outside, I might have come across as a crazy person...but, ey! There's nothing wrong with being a bit crazy when what you are trying to do is listen to yourself, listen to your heart.
The reason behind it was, that here I was, once again, seeing someone who didn't appreciated me, didn't see me for who I was and what I was worth... And to be completely honest with you, I am fully responsable this time. And I am saying this from a place of ease and self love, I am not beating myself up for making the same mistake again.
You see, sometimes we keep doing the same thing over and over again, because is something that is ingrained in our brain, in our self belief. And as women we are caring, loving, and understanding beings; and we will do what we can to help others bring the best out of them.
What we have to understand is that, sometimes, IT IS ABSOLUTELY FUCKING IMPOSSIBLE TO ACHIEVE, because it's not up to us, it's on the other person. If they want to be the best they can be, they will find the way to do it, same as we do.
As I sat there and had a serious chat with myself, myself and I agreed that, it was time to let old habits and beliefs go. It was time that we listen to our heart and know that no matter what happened in the past, I am now the woman I always wanted to be, and I deserve the best things that this life, that I am now creating for myself, can give me.
I don't need someone else's approval; someone else to tell me how amazing I am; how beautiful and smart I am; I don't need someone else to tell me to keep going; I don't need someone else to celebrate my victories with....UNLESS, that person is there because they fully understand who I am; because they fully love me and respect me for who I am, with my greatness and my flaws; with my beauty and my strength; with my craziness; with myself in full!
SO STOP, PLEASE STOP, TRYING TO FIX A BROKEN SOUL WHO DOESN'T WANT/THINK/ KNOW THAT NEEDS FIXING... BECAUSE NOBODY LIKES TO BE TOLD THAT WE NEED TO CHANGE, IT'S ALL UP TO US!
Make the best of who you are, of your life, for yourself. That is the best way you can help someone else, by inspiring, by leading the way!
BE POWER! BE CHANGE! BE LIFE! BE CREATION! AND ALWAYS, ALWAYS, BE YOU!
Love, Light, Be Maria. XXX